It starts with a wink. Simple enough. Let him know you’re interested without putting yourself out there too much, without seeming too forward. He has, after all, checked out your profile on more than one occasion.
He sees your wink and he raises you a message. He goes all in and asks you for a drink on the very first email. (Yeah, that’s all for poker metaphors.) You’re in. You email him back and agree to a drink.
And you never hear from him again.
Look, dude, you are paying to put yourself out there. Does he not understand the concept? He got a girl to agree to go on a date, albeit just a drink. Is he collecting “yes”es? I can’t think of any other reason. Why be on an online dating site then not date?
You are wasting my time and your money. Walk away.